I saw several of the concepts here that I use to justify my belief that we don't possess true freewill. Learning that 70% of abused kids go on to use abuse on their own kids as a form of discipline changed my life. Awareness is key to growth.We are simply preordained genetically inherited biology interacting with our environment anyway we know how. That's why constant learning is so important so that we can incorporate all of the new information for when we have to interact with future environments.
Indeed. Awareness is key. And without it we can feel that we don’t have free will as if we are programmed to repeat some patterns no matter how hard we try not to do them. We are programmed in a way, but the truth is we are the ones who programmed ourselves so early that sometimes we forget that. With new information, we can start to see the patterns and reprogramming ourselves in healthy ways.
This resonated deeply with me. I spent years condemning my mother's addiction to alcohol, only to find myself battling addiction later in life. I judged her victim mentality, yet I became a deeply pessimistic person for many years. It taught me that the patterns we reject can still become the patterns we repeat until we become conscious of them. The greatest gift healing gave me was the chance to break that generational cycle through my own sons. Instead of asking how not to become my mother, I began asking who I wanted to become. That question changed everything .
This hit home, Odel. I see the patterns and what I learned and took from my parents ' behaviours. Both my parents help others. They give without expectations, but sometimes to the détriment of themselves. I help others the same way and have been working on setting boundaries when helping and not giving to the point of harming my own health. I have been learning to set and respect boundaries because that is something that was never practiced in my family. I don't stay quiet when something wrong is happening before me in the family anymore.
I saw several of the concepts here that I use to justify my belief that we don't possess true freewill. Learning that 70% of abused kids go on to use abuse on their own kids as a form of discipline changed my life. Awareness is key to growth.We are simply preordained genetically inherited biology interacting with our environment anyway we know how. That's why constant learning is so important so that we can incorporate all of the new information for when we have to interact with future environments.
Thank you Seb.
Indeed. Awareness is key. And without it we can feel that we don’t have free will as if we are programmed to repeat some patterns no matter how hard we try not to do them. We are programmed in a way, but the truth is we are the ones who programmed ourselves so early that sometimes we forget that. With new information, we can start to see the patterns and reprogramming ourselves in healthy ways.
This resonated deeply with me. I spent years condemning my mother's addiction to alcohol, only to find myself battling addiction later in life. I judged her victim mentality, yet I became a deeply pessimistic person for many years. It taught me that the patterns we reject can still become the patterns we repeat until we become conscious of them. The greatest gift healing gave me was the chance to break that generational cycle through my own sons. Instead of asking how not to become my mother, I began asking who I wanted to become. That question changed everything .
Thank you very much !
Indeed that question changes everything. And I’m glad you could do the healing process.
I think it’s because we need to heal the ancestral trauma when you become aware of this in yourself then we can hopefully change the patterns.
Indeed, being conscious of the traumas is the first step. We still need to head and repair them.
Thank you, Cronezone 😊
This hit home, Odel. I see the patterns and what I learned and took from my parents ' behaviours. Both my parents help others. They give without expectations, but sometimes to the détriment of themselves. I help others the same way and have been working on setting boundaries when helping and not giving to the point of harming my own health. I have been learning to set and respect boundaries because that is something that was never practiced in my family. I don't stay quiet when something wrong is happening before me in the family anymore.