Odel, hello. I’ve carried many different feelings about my relationship with my father as well. We can spend our lives resenting our parents, or we can convince ourselves that everything they did was right. But perhaps what truly matters is neither of those things. Maybe it is learning to understand that our parents were also imperfect human beings, just like the rest of us. 😇
“But perhaps what truly matters is neither of those things. Maybe it is learning to understand that our parents were also imperfect human beings, just like the rest of us.”
Deciding what ends with you is one of the most intentional things a person can do. Most people never get there — they either spend their lives resenting the inheritance or defending it. But sitting with it honestly and saying this part stays, this part stops — that's real work. The foundation versus the past distinction is going to stay with me.
I’m glad this distinction find a place next to you. No matter what we can say, we are the children of our parents. I like to put it like: we are the children of the people who raised us. We inherited a lot from them and it’s not always good stuffs. Taking time to sit with them and chose consciously what we want to stay can is a good starting point.
Wonderful tribute and portrait of the relationship of child maturing to adult and mother. It represents all the challenges of a mom and how they are experienced by a child, especially a loving daughter. Would make for a compelling foundation to a short story (hint hint). I have no doubt you inherited beautiful traits from your mother, physically, intellectually and spiritually.
Odel, hello. I’ve carried many different feelings about my relationship with my father as well. We can spend our lives resenting our parents, or we can convince ourselves that everything they did was right. But perhaps what truly matters is neither of those things. Maybe it is learning to understand that our parents were also imperfect human beings, just like the rest of us. 😇
Hello Keiichiro !
“But perhaps what truly matters is neither of those things. Maybe it is learning to understand that our parents were also imperfect human beings, just like the rest of us.”
These lines said it all,
Thank you !
Beautiful. This line lingered in a deeply personal way. "Who chooses understanding before turning away."
Thank you for reading this, Petra 🫶🏽
Understanding sometimes can be so underrated in a relationship.
So true! And you’re welcome. <3
What do I want to carry forward?
Beautiful and resounding words.
Thank you, Charlotte 🫶🏽!
This was a good an important question.
This is really beautiful ✨🖤
Thank you, my friend 🤗
Deciding what ends with you is one of the most intentional things a person can do. Most people never get there — they either spend their lives resenting the inheritance or defending it. But sitting with it honestly and saying this part stays, this part stops — that's real work. The foundation versus the past distinction is going to stay with me.
Thank you, Jacob !
I’m glad this distinction find a place next to you. No matter what we can say, we are the children of our parents. I like to put it like: we are the children of the people who raised us. We inherited a lot from them and it’s not always good stuffs. Taking time to sit with them and chose consciously what we want to stay can is a good starting point.
What a beautiful tribute to your mother, and a powerful way to manifest the person you hope to share your life with.
Wonderful tribute and portrait of the relationship of child maturing to adult and mother. It represents all the challenges of a mom and how they are experienced by a child, especially a loving daughter. Would make for a compelling foundation to a short story (hint hint). I have no doubt you inherited beautiful traits from your mother, physically, intellectually and spiritually.
Thank you for reading and for your kind words. Greatly appreciated 🫶🏽✨
As the son of my mother, I’ve inherited from her for sure and despise everything, I’m grateful for that.
Oh! I misunderstood who the author was, but I still meant everything I wrote about how good the essay is.
😁😁😁 I got it. And thank you for sharing your thoughts on this poem. I truly appreciate that