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Elham Sarikhani's avatar

The wound here isn’t about generosity failing; it’s about how early we learn that giving can expose us. The boy’s refusal reads less like vengeance and more like self-protection learned too soon, before language could catch up. What lingers is the cost of asking children to carry moral clarity without shelter. Some lessons arrive gently only after we survive the harsher version first.

Seungyeon Jeong's avatar

I give love to my children,

and I also notice that I want to be loved in return.

I agree that giving is not a transaction.

At the same time, I don’t think we can deny the desire to receive.

Lately, I’ve been feeling that when I’m honest with myself

about what I was hoping for,

it hurts less when that hope isn’t met.

Thank you for this reflection,

and for holding such a gentle, honest space.

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