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feelingsundefined's avatar

I have a question. When you ask yourself, 'Who am I, really?', how do you know which answer is the right one? Do multiple answers come to you at once, or does a single one emerge? Does the question 'What did I want to become?' ever have anything to do with who we actually became—or who we became while we were striving to be that exact thing? I know that’s more than one question, but since we’re on the subject, I’m curious to hear how others’ answers sound to the questions I ask myself. But I mean the answers of ordinary people—not psychologists or psychiatrists, just regular people. Thank you for this text; it leaves so much room for thought.

Odel Asseille's avatar

First of all, I’m an ordinary person 😁. Thank you for your questions.

Personally, I don’t believe there is a direct right answer, but a lot of possibilities. And we can feel it deep down inside of us. When I ask myself that question, a lot of values and flaws come in my mind and each of them are me. I believe the ME is built by a lot of fragments, each fragment is part of who we are, the goods as what we might consider as bad too.

For the question “what did I want to become?”, sometimes we love our way because of the pressure of the society and our emotions. We can ended up being someone completely different than that initial image. But we still can become that person. We don’t become that person, we can just be that person.

This post was part of the first part of the essay, if you keep digging in the following posts, you would have a whole picture and a larger analyze to that idea. Yo can read them on my substack or just grab this first chapter on gumroad, you can download it freely, here’s the link

PS: I am just working on the post I told you about last time, the reflection to make room for the other to love us in their way. It will be publish tomorrow

https://themirrorroom.gumroad.com/l/understandingidentity

feelingsundefined's avatar

Thank you for your reply. Now I have more topics to think about. Don't worry, I'll read everything! 😊

Odel Asseille's avatar

I really appreciate that. Thank you !

If you have any question, I'll be glad to discuss about them with you ✨

feelingsundefined's avatar

Rest assured that I will always have questions when it comes to topics like this. 😃

Odel Asseille's avatar

Awesome

This post can help you navigate better through this series of reflections on identity. It's like a roadmap

https://www.themirrorroom.net/p/start-here-the-reflections-on-identity?r=57v9sj&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web